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I don't know why, but I have met a lot of people who are A-holes lately. Instead of yelling at them and telling them what their crimes are, I just keep silent and delete them from my contact list and swear to god that I will never answer or return their calls again.

Listed below are the crimes committed by those people, so then next time if you happen to meet someone like that, suggest you to run away immediately.


Case 1--Mr. D

Mr. D is a contract attorney whom I met through my current colleagues. About mid 30s, huge size, Italian American.

I guess there are certain rules about dating, and the first rule I think would be not to be late on your dates. It was ok when we went out for the first time. But then on the second time he was supposed to meet with me and my colleagues so we could go to KTV together, and he was late for half an hour and blamed it all on the delay of the subway.

Second, if you ask your dates out, make sure you pay for your dates for dinner or a movie or whatever. It is up to women to pay for it if she wants to, but guys should always, always take out his credit card first. However, it is my case here. I took out my credit card after having the breakfast together, and surprisingly, Mr. D didn't object nor did he show his appreciation by saying "thank you".

I guess the rest isn't about any dating rule, rather, it is about a person's personality. I found out more about Mr. D 2 days later when I went shopping and he came to meet me at the mall in the afternoon. I didn't eat anything the whole day, and he just had brunch with his friend. So I went to the McDonald at food court to get some fries and coke, didn't want to have a big meal in case we would have dinner later together. I didn't want to show up with food only for myself, so out of politeness, I asked if he wants anything too. He answered, "Can you get me juice? I am thirsty." (didn't say "please" or "thanks"). When 2 cups of juice and my fries were ready and paid for (by me)(and again, no "thank you"), although he had both hands free, he didn't take the cups or the fries, as if he was expecting me to get them. I was carrying my handbag and a huge shopping bag (with a pair of shoes, 2 pairs of jeans and a top that I just bought in it) already, and I was expecting him to offer to help carry my bags, or at least grab the drinks and the fries, but he did nothing and just walked away. So I grabbed the drinks and straws, asked him to hold them and asked (normally the guy will take over your bag without you asking him first) "Could you please help me with the bag?" And he said "No". Period. No explanation, no nothing. Period. So finally I had to carry the two bags and my French fries.

I thought that I might have heard it wrong. While I was all pissed, he started to drink his orange juice. When we were walking toward the parking lot a few minutes later, I tried again and said, "Could you help me with my bag? It is heavy." Finally he reluctantly took over my shopping bag for a few seconds, and shoved it back to me when he tried to pay for the parking ticket, because he needed his both hands free to dip his credit card into the ticket machine. As all of you can guess, I went home at around 10 pm that day without having dinner (he is not considerate enough to notice that I might be hungry).

The next day, he instant messaged me and asked me out for a lunch together. Of course after what happened I decided that this guy is not considerate at all, and I am not sure if it is a good idea to go out with him again, so I jokingly asked "Is it on you?" And this is what he answered: "Oh my....wow....I guess I will have to cancel then....I see I am the sugar daddy....I don't know if I can afford you....I am poor, I guess I can't go out with you if I am poor...." I was like, WOW. WHAT AN ASS!!!! It is only a less than $10 dollar lunch and you think you are already a sugar daddy?!!! Eventually I found out that he had once dated a girl, and she stopped going out with him after he stopped paying, and what I said just sort of got on his nerve. But anyway I still think no matter what his past experience was, there is no need to throw me all that sugar daddy crap. He is not considerate or polite and is very self-centered. And because of that, I blocked him from my contact list.