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其實小黛的心情很複雜。小黛從小就一直夢想著結婚,這幾年身邊好友一個一個步入禮堂,她雖然為朋友高興,但也為自己感到很心酸。糟糕的是,小黛與大部分的女孩不同。很多人只要感覺對了,或者對方有某種社會地位或財富,或者對方對自己很好,或者時間到了,就可以定下來。可是她沒有辦法。小黛心中的Mr. Right的形象太過清晰,以致於當身邊出現的人一旦與理想形象有一點不合,小黛就沒有辦法說服自己進一步與這個人交往。她當然知道自己也是有很多缺點的,所以她也會給自己跟別人機會,但最終還是無法與理想妥協。這樣的個性讓她被別人批評太picky,但是小黛知道,她只是習慣觀察人,並善於從別人的小動作中分析對方的個性,也很清楚知道自己要什麼與不要什麼。所以即使小黛身邊出現追求者,小黛心裡仍常感到惆悵失落,因為她知道,這個人是她心中的Mr. Right的機會太渺茫。
仔細想來,在這三四個月以來,小黛的身邊陸陸續續已經出現六個人,讓她自己也嚇了一跳。小黛在台灣時,其實並沒有這麼popular。她在台灣時總是忙於工作,而小黛的工作並沒有認識人的機會。又在台灣跟朋友出去玩時不流行帶朋友的朋友一起hang out,再加上小黛身邊的朋友不是已經有男女朋友,要不就是已婚,所以小黛的朋友們沒有認識新朋友的必要,導致小黛的朋友圈更窄。即使有人喜歡小黛,也因為男生個性往往懦弱膽小,總是為自己留個safety net,吞吞吐吐搞曖昧;要不就是覺得小黛條件太好不敢追。小黛在美國留學過後,也總覺得大部分的台灣的男生都眼光短小,不夠有世界觀。美國男生不一樣。如果找小黛出去,就是對小黛有意思,這意思絕對不會搞錯,小黛從來不需要花精神猜來猜去。
雖然不必要,小黛有時也不可避免的想著,"why me"?這些人究竟看上用中文口音說著彆扭英文的小黛的哪一點?聽說有些變態老外專門找亞洲女孩子,小黛在好幾年以前在猶太人律師事務所上班時,約她出去吃飯的黑人同事就曾經告訴小黛他喜歡亞洲女人。這些人該不會都剛好因為小黛的東方臉而感到好奇吧?但是小黛也是認真的好女孩。她總是認真地做家事、認真地走路到subway坐地鐵、認真地上班、遇到人時認真地打招呼。即使對自己的英文沒有信心,還是硬著頭皮跟人瞎扯。小黛發現,在對很多事情都認為理所當然的情況下,其實事實上並不是都真的這麼理所當然。這個project裡面的50個人中,有好些人是很不友善或不跟人打招呼的,還有的人個性怪異,會講些讓人接不下去的話,或者時而友善時而不友善。像supervisor就是個奇怪的人,不善也不喜歡與人交際,下班時還偷偷摸摸沿著牆腳走路離開辦公室,以避免被人看到。同事蜜雪兒也是個怪人,她生日party那天知道小黛與克勞蒂亞答應凱文參加她的party後,並沒有來告訴小黛她們"welcome you guys to my party"之類的話,反而在得知小黛她們最後back out不參加後,跑來質問小黛為什麼不來參加了,還上下盯著小黛的衣服看,問那小黛為什麼要dress up,是不是要去哪裡,讓小黛不知道該怎麼回答....所以,"Why not me"?小黛的身材高聎,五呎六吋的身高即使在美國也比大多數的女人(甚至男人)高;小黛的身型又因為工作開心,少了以往在台灣時需要靠狂吃狂喝來釋放壓力的必要而偏瘦,這在整間辦公室到處充斥著oversize的女人之下,有氣質的小黛自然是引人注目的。
小黛想了想,乾脆豁出去找了機會跟凱文把話說清楚。她不知道凱文究竟想要幹嘛,如果只是想要hang out,當然沒有問題;但如果是想要something more,自己其實並不想發展辦公室戀情,希望可以take it slow。凱文告訴小黛,他喜歡她,他覺得小黛很cute、聰明、有幽默感,中文也是他一直有興趣學習的語言。他已經很久沒有對一個人有感覺了。他不知道小黛對他有沒有interest。如果有,當然很好;如果沒有,他也可以接受只做朋友。如果小黛因為顧慮同事之間dating被人gossip,而不想跟他出去,他也可以理解,因為他不想讓小黛uncomfortable,更不想強迫小黛做她不想做的事情。小黛覺得凱文很誠懇,語氣之中透露著單純與認真。想了想,"fuck it",反正自己本來就沒有耐心,早點知道對方是什麼樣的人,如果知道不適合,就不必浪費時間了。何況只是跟凱文出去一個晚上,藉著這個機會多認識一個朋友也不會有什麼損失,就答應了。
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小黛想了一整晚,仍然不知道該怎麼回覆凱文,第二天小黛決定avoid他。凱文沒有Jose直率,沒有敢問小黛的決定如何,大概害羞躲起來了,所以兩個人並沒有講到什麼話。
Jose是宏都拉斯裔的美國人,比小黛矮一些,年紀看上去約二十幾歲,因為想要轉行念MBA,現在正在準備考GMAT。Jose是這個辦公室裡除了克勞蒂亞以外,跟小黛最熟的人。小黛幾乎可以確定,前兩天剛來上班時,Jose一直在找機會跟小黛說話但苦無機會,終於在第三天時Jose來到廚房遇到小黛,才正式與小黛說到話,還被小黛說的話逗得仰頭大笑,告訴小黛"You are funny"。在那一瞬間,小黛感覺到與Jose之間有click的感覺,只是在接下來幾天的聊天裡,小黛才發覺Jose有點naive。
對小黛來說,Jose是個熱情的小弟弟。Jose的個性熱情奔放,每次小黛走路經過同樣與小黛坐在走道的Jose位子,Jose一定會對著小黛報以一種I like you的微笑,有事沒事還常跑到小黛桌旁聊天。Jose曾經邀請過小黛跟他及他朋友一起去打撞球,但小黛沒有接受。Jose收假回來與小黛聊天,剛好優那經過,小黛遂把那天被優那氣到的事情告訴Jose。Jose搖搖頭一臉不以為然地說,"She is stupid. I don't know why she did that. You know what, she does that to everyone. She is mean and she picks on people. I think since she lives in a terrible condition, doing this makes her feel better."。因為Jose站在小黛這一邊,讓小黛的心裡有被撫慰到的感覺。
今天小黛又與往常一樣跑去電腦桌上網,Jose跑來坐在小黛身邊的位子,又與小黛聊了半小時。小黛逐漸發現,每當她上網時,小黑、凱文或Jose緊接著跑來坐在小黛身邊空的電腦桌位子的機率頗高。小黛回到位子上沒有多久,凱文竟然出現了,說"I saw you talking with Jose over there for a long time",還問小黛有沒有收到他的簡訊,因為小黛遲遲沒有回應,讓他有點worry。小黛心裡已經決定,反正只是喝個酒嘛,遂決定答應凱文,順便問問凱文有什麼計劃。沒想到一問之下,以為只是星期六下班後喝個酒的,凱文居然想要either星期六晚上一起吃飯與喝酒,或者星期五下班後到古根漢博物館,因為聽說古根漢博物館在星期五有個特別節目,可以在那裡吃晚餐喝酒,還有音樂可以聽....凱文這麼正式的舉動把小黛嚇了一跳。小黛心想,凱文大概是很少跟人約會,他難道不知道,一開始跟人約會,應該只約喝個酒或吃午餐;如果仍然覺得不錯,才可以一起吃晚餐。凱文一開始就約吃晚餐又喝酒,萬一談不來,整餐飯吃下來一定痛苦不堪,走都走不了。再者,一起喝個酒,感覺好像只是hang out;一起吃個正式的晚餐,可就是date了。不過從凱文的舉動,小黛推測凱文是個很單純的人,而不像一般滑頭的男生,會耍心機及玩感情遊戲。就在小黛舉棋不定時,不知情的克勞蒂亞走了過來加入聊天,凱文與小黛的話題只好被迫打斷....
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凱文是在波士頓長大的白人,mid 30s,約六呎高,大大的肚子透著衣服鼓了出來。凱文才搬到紐約不到一年,在這個project已經做了八個月了,小黛剛開始認識凱文時,凱文就曾經說過如果工作有什麼問題都可以去問他,又因為凱文和小黛一樣在波士頓待過,同樣喜歡魔戒,所以對凱文有些親切感。只是小黛一直覺得跟凱文聊天時,凱文的臉讀不出喜怒哀樂,總是用businessman-like的語氣說話,不帶有感情,所以不太能聊得深入。小黛剛開始幾次跟凱文說完話後,凱文總是伸出手做握拳狀要跟小黛很buddy似的碰拳頭,後來有一次凱文跟小黛說"What's up"時跟小黛碰拳頭被優那看到,被優那當場說了句,"Kevin, I've got to tell you something in private."後,就再也不見凱文伸出拳頭了。凱文有次開門走出辦公室走了兩步後回頭一看到小黛跟在後面,連忙跑回來幫小黛開門,並說"I didn't know it was you"後,小黛開玩笑地問,"So you were saying that if it wasn't me, you wouldn't have hold the door?",凱文回答,"No"。還有一次凱文幫小黛把她的轎車服務的voucher特地拿去給離自己位置最遠的小黛,小黛才有些明白。
即使小黛知道凱文跟優那的關係不錯,小黛仍然豁出去了,把凱文拉到一邊開始抱怨被優那欺負的事。果然凱文又用一副businessman-like並且中立的語氣告訴小黛,其實曾有很多人打電話到staffing firm抱怨過優那,但是因為優那的cousin在staffing firm當senior account director,所以打去的抱怨都被cousin壓下來了,糟糕的是打去抱怨的人的名字也被傳開來,所以最好不要輕舉妄動,以免對自己不利。優那因為喜歡凱文跟其他常常向優那示好及跟她聊天的人,所以除了對這幫人以外,優那對其他每個人都是非常rude及bitchy的。凱文說,反正就是按時薪計算嘛,所以每次發生不合理的事,他就告訴自己"fuck it",咬著牙就過去了。
小黛聽完後,覺得自己為這種事跟凱文抱怨有點不好意思,跟凱文又小聊幾句後就跟凱文道謝,並且說不好意思讓他花這麼多時間聽小黛倒垃圾後就想離開。凱文回說,"Any time. You are not wasting my time. I enjoy talking to you."。凱文說完後,忽然不好意思地說剛剛正經八百地說"I enjoy talking to you"有點funny。小黛趕忙說,"No no, this is good. I thought you always talked like businessman. You normally don't show emotions."。凱文冷不防地忽然說,"I like you."。小黛的腦門霎時像是被閃電打到,嘴巴張得老大,腦袋一片空白地說,"Huh?" 凱文又說了,"I like you."。小黛想不出要說什麼,只好說,"What does that have to do with what we were talking about?" 凱文說,"I am shy. I guess I talk like that as a disguise. I guess a lot of people do that."。小黛只好說,"That's true."。為了衝散尷尬的氣氛,小黛故意學凱文說what's up的語氣說,"Ok. Cool.",並伸出右手做握拳狀跟凱文碰了拳頭,兩人都笑了。
小黛有驚無險地回到位子上,一天之內受到不少驚嚇,喝口茶鎮定神經正要開始工作時,身邊的手機忽然響了起來,原來是凱文傳了簡訊過來,約小黛星期六下班後去喝酒。小黛不喜歡跟辦公室的人搞曖昧或約會,所以還想不出來到底該怎麼回覆凱文。請了一星期假的熱情直率的拉丁美洲男Jose隔天又將來上班,這故事到底會怎麼發展呢?
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沒想到這麼快就有後續。
小黛工作的地方是一間很大的會議室,每人桌前都有一台電腦,為了保密資訊的關係,這裡的規定是桌前的電腦無法上網,於是大家被逼著只能直愣愣地對著電腦工作,而不能跟以前一樣上網偷懶聽音樂(當然小黛也曾看到有人在電腦上玩接龍或者看電影)。要上網的話,只能到會議室的另一角靠近廚房的地方,有四台電腦可以讓人使用,每個人一次限時使用15分鐘。廚房裡,只有簡單的兩張長桌子供人吃飯用,旁邊有洗手台、咖啡機、飲水機和微波爐。每次小黛工作做得很煩躁鬱悶時,總會踱步到廚房倒水,或者去上上網,去外面洗手間,遇到人時便聊聊天。
坐在門口櫃檯前的,是staffing firm派來的臨時秘書優那。優那是個肥大的黑人女生,粗魯、懶惰、沒禮貌又壞心眼。小黛剛來上班的第二天因為在樓下等送她回家的林肯轎車,在街口苦等十分鐘仍等不到車後,拿起手機直接打電話到轎車公司問到底怎麼回事,結果因為轎車公司的總機把小黛put on hold後就沒有下文,小黛只好回到辦公室跟優納說車子沒有來的事,竟被優那當著其他正等著sign out的十幾位律師的面,用質問的語氣對小黛說,"why did you wait so long to come up?"後,從此小黛就對這個黑人女生感到厭惡並敬而遠之。小黛一開始以為優那是針對小黛才這麼不客氣,後來才發現優那對親信以外的所有人都是非常rude及mean。
今天又如往常一般,小黛跑去上網時,又遇到比小黛晚一個星期來報到的黑人同事。小黛跟這名黑人同事已經聊過兩次天了,卻從不記得他的名字。小黑是從奈及利亞來的,有著異於一般人的複雜背景:小黑幼稚園時曾經在英國待過幾年,後來回到奈及利亞,又在念大學時當交換學生來到美國念軍校,奈及利亞軍事政變後,小黑跟美國申請政治僻護,從此成為美國公民。
小黑是個很健談的人。小黛邊上網就邊跟小黑隨便聊起拉斯維加斯的秀、小黑的出生背景、小黑上次去的藍調酒吧Terra Blues、還有小黛星期天在家煮了一星期分量的台灣菜的事。小黑說起希望能夠吃到小黛煮的台灣菜時,小黛心裡還沒有感覺,直到小黑冷不防地跟小黛要她的電子信箱時,小黛才忽然意識到了什麼。後來小黑突然問了句,"Let me know when you want to go to Terra Blues. We can go together. You are interested in seeing the shows, right?" ,小黛的腦袋才忽然一下子清醒了過來,心想,"Where did that come from? I didn't see that coming...."。因為小黑跟Jose或凱文不同,他從來沒有對小黛示好過,所以小黑突如期然的這樣一問,讓小黛著著實實地嚇了一跳。於是小黛隨便敷衍了小黑"sure"後,就匆忙逃回自己位子上,還心有餘悸,心想著最近是怎麼回事,難道是家裡祖上積德到現在才顯現出來,還是看了跟摩根借的DVD"The Secret"後,一個接著一個的男人就出現了?
晚上六點是這裡登記轎車服務的時間。從晚上八點開始到九點中間,共有八點整、八點十五分、八點半、八點四十五分及九點的時段可以選擇,由林肯轎車送每個人door to door回家,每個時段只能登記十個人。六點一到,優那坐在櫃檯前對著辦公室裡工作的律師們大喊"car service!"後,所有的律師就趕忙排隊,深怕想要回家的時段被登記滿了。小黛一直都很討厭優那連走都懶得走到辦公室裡就直接坐在櫃檯上扯著嗓子大喊登記轎車服務,每每聽到優那又用那種沒禮貌的語氣大喊"car service",心裡就感到很厭倦。又不是小學生,幹什麼非得要侮辱人,難道不能用別的方式登記嗎,每天要讓這麼多律師爭先恐後的登記,還要每次在登記時寫下自己的全名及家裡地址?都工作這麼久了,優那每天除了上網聊天以外,哪位律師住在哪裡難道優那不能整理出一張list嗎?
想歸想,小黛還是乖乖排隊去登記轎車服務。沒想到今天運氣真不好,小黛登記完十分鐘後,優那忽然來到辦公室裡喊著小黛的名字,小黛心裡狐疑地想著不會又要找我麻煩了吧,沒想到一到櫃檯,優那就很不客氣地對小黛說,"You didn't print your name clearly. I can't read it to call the car service."。小黛一聽心裡一把火馬上轟了上來,心想既然優那都知道登記的人是小黛了,竟然還說她看不懂小黛的名字以致於無法幫小黛叫車?小黛覺得被羞辱了,鐵青著臉回到座位後馬上把發生的事報給克勞蒂亞跟她旁邊的義大利帥哥包伯聽。沒想到克勞蒂亞跟包伯沒有如小黛期待的同仇敵愾,小黛愈想愈氣,平常一起聊天的Jose又請假沒來,小黛只好跑去找凱文發洩她的怨氣....
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  • back to NY again (花系列Preamble)

一回到紐約後,我又開始了document review的工作,不過這次我做的不再是中文的document review,而是英文的document review,於是這次在這個擁有50名律師的project裡,我變成是唯一的non-English native speaker。
在這樣一個全英文的環境裡,我最擔心在別人conversation中,我因為聽不懂某個關鍵字導致無法加入談話。一開始我也曾想過我不想被singled out,那我是不是不要告訴別人我其實是從台灣來的,是不是不要開口以免讓別人聽到我不一樣的口音(這裡畢竟不是學校,英文講不好是你家的事,沒人管你是從哪裡來的)。但後來想,管他的,我如果不趁這個機會練習那我就是笨蛋。所以從開工以後,我每逢在pantry倒水遇到人時我總會跟人來個small chat,跟人對話時我也沒先經過腦子預演一遍就說出口了,所以有時候說出來的句子不是句子。
幸運的是,坐在我旁邊的俄裔美國女生克勞蒂亞之前在日本工作過幾年,所以被她發現我是個學過日文的半調子,可以跟她討論日本的食物與文化後,我們在短短幾天之內變成fast friends,當我聽不懂某些對話時她會很認真地充當起我的英文小老師,把含意(甚至出處)解釋給我聽。聊了太多日本料理的結果就是上班第二天中午,我們馬上跑到公司附近一家日本料理店去解飢。她甚至還把我們工作地方(financial district)附近的餐廳名單列印出來,每天中午我們兩人結伴換不同餐廳探險成為highlight of the day。
除了吃東西外,因為document review的工作枯躁又無聊,閒瞌牙談八卦也變成不可或缺的一部份。雖然我跟克勞蒂亞總是在一起,還被大家開玩笑說我們是"inseparable twins",但我卻也被同是單身但身型矮胖的克勞蒂亞當成暗中較勁的對象。每天早上一到辦公室,克勞蒂亞都會size me up,把我從頭到尾打量一番後,告訴我今天她的打扮是什麼什麼材質的衣服配上從哪裡哪裡買來的裙子,因為這樣她的什麼什麼會顯得比較好看;或者告訴我今天她一到supervisor的辦公室時,supervisor邊看著她的腳邊咧著嘴笑,因為她有雙很小的腳,而有的男人對女人的小腳有奇怪的癖好;她今天本來要穿涼鞋來上班,但是她怕supervisor看到她的toe nail後會噴鼻血發狂所以就沒穿來了;或者在我稱讚她穿的衣服好看時,她就會告訴我她今天走去廚房時,她感覺到後面幾排的男生都抬頭看她;誰誰誰遇到她時跟她flirting云云....我覺得我彷彿幼稚了十幾歲,好像高中時期一群情竇初開的女生討論『我覺得A喜歡你耶!』『唉唷討厭,B才喜歡你咧』之類的對話,每次聽到克勞蒂亞這樣告訴我時我總是不知道該怎麼接口。
糟糕的是也許我每次遇到人時總是友善地跟人聊天打招呼(後來才發現原來不友善的人很多),我居然在這裡成為受歡迎的女生。工作一星期後拉丁美洲的男生Jose就趁我一個人在廚房時悄悄告訴我"you are my favorite person in the new group of people"。"I have to concentrate on what we are talking about when I talk to other people, but not with you. I always want to talk to you"。"There is a big difference between "having to talk to someone" and "wanting to talk to someone"....幾天後美國男生凱文邀請我和克勞蒂亞晚上參加同事蜜雪兒的生日party,中午跟克勞蒂亞吃飯時她還用少女情懷的語氣說,不知道這凱文究竟想要邀請的是我還是她。就在後來我跟克勞蒂亞都決定不去這個party,而我跑去跟凱文說我們不去的決定後,凱文忽然才說其實他是想要找我去參加party,他會一併邀請克勞蒂亞是因為她坐在我旁邊,他不好意思不一起邀請她,語末還要加一句"if you know what I mean"....
所以囉,我也不知道這檔戲會怎麼演,就敬請期待囉!
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  • Cute Panda at National Zoo in D.C.






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  • 3月 05 週三 200800:34
  • Farewell, DC!

I feel so bad that I had to move back to NY. My stay in DC had been great. Though it was only a month, I had tried to go to as many places and experience as much as I could. Now I am back in NY, I just miss the street on my way to work in DC; I miss the convenience to be able to live in Dupont Circle that practically all the restaurants we dined are in Dupont Circle area; and I sure miss the quality of life there. Hopefully I can find a permanent job in DC in the future. Here is the summary of what I had done in DC:
Work: Monday to Friday approximately 11.5 work hours/day from February 8 to February 29.
KTV: 4 times in Virginia(糜爛的生活?).
Met Ming-Chuan and Charlie.
Took a drive to Alexandria, Virginia.
Dined at my favorite restaurants Teaism(has all kinds of tea (including taprioca milk tea!) and Japanese Bendo, Afterworks Cafe at Kramer's Bookstore (Cafe inside of a bookstore) and Potbelly(a great sandwich store).
Watched movies: In Brudges, Juno and Vantage Point.
Went to the following museums and attractions:
1. Phillips Collection (free).
2. National Geographic Society. I went to see "Frogs! A Chorus of Colors" exhibition. The exhibit features 150 live frogs in a variety of environments and interactive station (free).
3. National Gallery of Art. This museum is huge and has West wing (contains art within Pre-Renaissance period) and East wing (modern and contemporary art) (free).
4. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts.
(1)I went to see "this program on March 2" performed by New York City Ballet at Opera House. It is the best ballet performance I've ever seen. New York City Ballet actually made fun of the traditionally ballet and its pianist even played a funny role in the performance ($25).
(2)The National Symphony Orchestra Young Soloists' Competition National Young Artist Division Finals (free).
Smithsonian Institution
5. National Zoological Park--went to see giant Panda Tian Tian, Mei Xiang and Tai Shan (free).
6. National Air & Space Museum (free).
7. Hirshhorn Museum & Sculpture Garden (free).
To see the pictures please go to http://picasaweb.google.co.uk/chaoning/DC02
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  • 2月 29 週五 200811:23
  • Careful, ladies! Keep away from those men!! (Part 2)

Case 2--Mr. T
Mr. T is a senior attorney at a big investment bank. I met him through my friend Morgan, and Morgan met him through her 2 girl friends. He is 40, Jewish, bald and short with his big tummy sticking out. The first time we met, he treated Morgan and me for a nice dinner. He appeared to be a really nice and helpful person. Morgan wanted to treat him back by taking him out for a nice opera or movie, but never got a chance.
He started to call me and ask me out since the first time we met, and every time we talked, he was talking about how he wants to buy a house, get married, and that he wants to go to France for vacation with a serious girlfriend, and he would be more than happy to take me there if I want to go with him. Morgan actually had to warn him not to talk about getting married too soon so I won't get scared. He was planning to visit me in DC on the weekend and check in to the hotel that is really close to my house, so then if I want to go somewhere, it would be convenient. Eventually I rejected his idea, because I don't feel any chemistry between us, and I didn't want to give him the wrong idea.
2 days ago Morgan found out that actually Mr. T had been calling her 2 girl friends, telling them that Morgan has been calling him, and he wondered if there is something wrong between Morgan and her husband....and that Morgan has introduced a woman to him, who works in DC and is also a lawyer (that's me), and that she has been calling him all the time. Since he doesn't want to settle down now, he doesn't know what to do....
I just can't believe what a stupid A-hole he is!! I mean, if he really wants to pretend and tell people how popular he is, and how all the girls want him, he could have told this stupid lies to his colleagues or friends who don't know Morgan and me. He is stupid enough to tell all that crap to Morgan's girl friends, and of course what he said was to be relayed to Morgan and to me.
Here I was just giving out examples of Mr. D and Mr. T to show how terrible these guys are, but honestly I've constantly met terrible guys like them over the past few years. Friends have been telling me that I am too picky with men, and that no one is perfect, blah blah blah. But I guess at least now I understand that the problem isn't me being too picky, but rather I am just not very lucky that all the men I met are terrible. Friends have been getting married over the past few years (I already know that 6 girl friends of mine are getting married this year), and I do get upset about how I haven't met the right guy yet. But I have heard happy stories and sad stories of married couples, and now I just think that actually it isn't so bad for me to stay single and didn't compromise on what I want in a man, rather than rushing into marriage with the wrong person just because everyone else is getting married.
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  • Careful, ladies! Keep away from those men!! (Part 1)

I don't know why, but I have met a lot of people who are A-holes lately. Instead of yelling at them and telling them what their crimes are, I just keep silent and delete them from my contact list and swear to god that I will never answer or return their calls again.
Listed below are the crimes committed by those people, so then next time if you happen to meet someone like that, suggest you to run away immediately.
Case 1--Mr. D
Mr. D is a contract attorney whom I met through my current colleagues. About mid 30s, huge size, Italian American.
I guess there are certain rules about dating, and the first rule I think would be not to be late on your dates. It was ok when we went out for the first time. But then on the second time he was supposed to meet with me and my colleagues so we could go to KTV together, and he was late for half an hour and blamed it all on the delay of the subway.
Second, if you ask your dates out, make sure you pay for your dates for dinner or a movie or whatever. It is up to women to pay for it if she wants to, but guys should always, always take out his credit card first. However, it is my case here. I took out my credit card after having the breakfast together, and surprisingly, Mr. D didn't object nor did he show his appreciation by saying "thank you".
I guess the rest isn't about any dating rule, rather, it is about a person's personality. I found out more about Mr. D 2 days later when I went shopping and he came to meet me at the mall in the afternoon. I didn't eat anything the whole day, and he just had brunch with his friend. So I went to the McDonald at food court to get some fries and coke, didn't want to have a big meal in case we would have dinner later together. I didn't want to show up with food only for myself, so out of politeness, I asked if he wants anything too. He answered, "Can you get me juice? I am thirsty." (didn't say "please" or "thanks"). When 2 cups of juice and my fries were ready and paid for (by me)(and again, no "thank you"), although he had both hands free, he didn't take the cups or the fries, as if he was expecting me to get them. I was carrying my handbag and a huge shopping bag (with a pair of shoes, 2 pairs of jeans and a top that I just bought in it) already, and I was expecting him to offer to help carry my bags, or at least grab the drinks and the fries, but he did nothing and just walked away. So I grabbed the drinks and straws, asked him to hold them and asked (normally the guy will take over your bag without you asking him first) "Could you please help me with the bag?" And he said "No". Period. No explanation, no nothing. Period. So finally I had to carry the two bags and my French fries.
I thought that I might have heard it wrong. While I was all pissed, he started to drink his orange juice. When we were walking toward the parking lot a few minutes later, I tried again and said, "Could you help me with my bag? It is heavy." Finally he reluctantly took over my shopping bag for a few seconds, and shoved it back to me when he tried to pay for the parking ticket, because he needed his both hands free to dip his credit card into the ticket machine. As all of you can guess, I went home at around 10 pm that day without having dinner (he is not considerate enough to notice that I might be hungry).
The next day, he instant messaged me and asked me out for a lunch together. Of course after what happened I decided that this guy is not considerate at all, and I am not sure if it is a good idea to go out with him again, so I jokingly asked "Is it on you?" And this is what he answered: "Oh my....wow....I guess I will have to cancel then....I see I am the sugar daddy....I don't know if I can afford you....I am poor, I guess I can't go out with you if I am poor...." I was like, WOW. WHAT AN ASS!!!! It is only a less than $10 dollar lunch and you think you are already a sugar daddy?!!! Eventually I found out that he had once dated a girl, and she stopped going out with him after he stopped paying, and what I said just sort of got on his nerve. But anyway I still think no matter what his past experience was, there is no need to throw me all that sugar daddy crap. He is not considerate or polite and is very self-centered. And because of that, I blocked him from my contact list.
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  • 2月 27 週三 200808:00
  • Movie--"Juno"


前幾天去看了一部電影『Juno』。Ellen Page飾演一個十六歲的高中女生Juno,在第一次與青梅竹馬的好朋友Bleeker初嚐禁果後懷孕,因為實在不想墮胎,最終自己決定把小孩生下來,在報紙分類廣告中找了一對想要小孩的完美夫妻Mark及Vanessa來認養她的小孩。這部片不但有美國年輕人的有趣對白,Ellen Page飾演的這個聰明、說話行為都很中性、行事怪異、大剌剌什麼都不怕、不怕旁人眼光的小女生真的演得相當棒。這個小女生完全不像我之前想像的未成年少女未婚懷孕時遮遮掩掩一副很想躲起來咬舌自盡的樣子,她反而像沒有未婚懷孕一樣,任憑肚子一天天大了起來,她還是一樣每天挺著肚子上學,去學校cafeteria吃東西,在田徑場上等Bleeker,完全無視他人議論紛紛的眼光。故事的劇情在最後Juno跟Mark因為談論喜歡的音樂和恐怖電影中產生好感,並且發現原來Mark是個只想追逐自己成為rock star夢想,其實不想要小孩,不願意對家庭負責任的大小孩,才忽然對人生中所謂永久的愛情產生質疑,並且發現原來她一直都喜歡青梅竹馬的Bleeker。這部片非常cute,連音樂都很cute。本片得到最佳original screenplay,不過很可惜演技精湛的Ellen Page沒有得到Oscar最佳女主角獎。
以下截自當Juno確定自己懷孕後打給好朋友Leah的對白:
Leah: Yo Yo Yiggady Yo.
Juno: I'm at suicide risk.
Leah: Juno?
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