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Case 2--Mr. T

Mr. T is a senior attorney at a big investment bank. I met him through my friend Morgan, and Morgan met him through her 2 girl friends. He is 40, Jewish, bald and short with his big tummy sticking out. The first time we met, he treated Morgan and me for a nice dinner. He appeared to be a really nice and helpful person. Morgan wanted to treat him back by taking him out for a nice opera or movie, but never got a chance.

He started to call me and ask me out since the first time we met, and every time we talked, he was talking about how he wants to buy a house, get married, and that he wants to go to France for vacation with a serious girlfriend, and he would be more than happy to take me there if I want to go with him. Morgan actually had to warn him not to talk about getting married too soon so I won't get scared. He was planning to visit me in DC on the weekend and check in to the hotel that is really close to my house, so then if I want to go somewhere, it would be convenient. Eventually I rejected his idea, because I don't feel any chemistry between us, and I didn't want to give him the wrong idea.

2 days ago Morgan found out that actually Mr. T had been calling her 2 girl friends, telling them that Morgan has been calling him, and he wondered if there is something wrong between Morgan and her husband....and that Morgan has introduced a woman to him, who works in DC and is also a lawyer (that's me), and that she has been calling him all the time. Since he doesn't want to settle down now, he doesn't know what to do....

I just can't believe what a stupid A-hole he is!! I mean, if he really wants to pretend and tell people how popular he is, and how all the girls want him, he could have told this stupid lies to his colleagues or friends who don't know Morgan and me. He is stupid enough to tell all that crap to Morgan's girl friends, and of course what he said was to be relayed to Morgan and to me.

Here I was just giving out examples of Mr. D and Mr. T to show how terrible these guys are, but honestly I've constantly met terrible guys like them over the past few years. Friends have been telling me that I am too picky with men, and that no one is perfect, blah blah blah. But I guess at least now I understand that the problem isn't me being too picky, but rather I am just not very lucky that all the men I met are terrible. Friends have been getting married over the past few years (I already know that 6 girl friends of mine are getting married this year), and I do get upset about how I haven't met the right guy yet. But I have heard happy stories and sad stories of married couples, and now I just think that actually it isn't so bad for me to stay single and didn't compromise on what I want in a man, rather than rushing into marriage with the wrong person just because everyone else is getting married.